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Ultimate Guide for BDSM Aftercare

Ultimate Guide for BDSM Aftercare

Ultimate Guide for BDSM Aftercare

Although a BDSM session is designed to give pleasure to both parties, there is no denying that it can take its toll on the sub mentally and physically.

BDSM can be powerful, and when we subject our bodies to such a dramatic rise in adrenaline and endorphins, it's logical that there has to be a sudden drop when the session ends. This is aptly known as the sub drop and can lead to all sorts of emotional and physical symptoms. Add to this the excessive levels of the stress hormone cortisol that our bodies naturally produce in this sort of situation, and you can see how the session can lead to some crazy goings-on inside the body. And this is before we've even considered the possibility of any outer injuries.

We don't want to bring you down here. BDSM is a fulfilling and enjoyable aspect of sex for more couples than you might think. One study estimated that around 30% of Americans are enjoying this particular form of kinky sex. But in order to keep it safe and satisfying for both parties, there are some aftercare tips that you should consider, especially if you do it often.

Treat injuries

Treat injuries

The first thing you need to do is treat any obvious external injuries. Wounds should be cleansed thoroughly and bound. Ice packs should be applied to any area of inflammation and maybe some soothing ointment or moisturizer could be used on areas that have suffered abrasions. You'll probably both need a couple of painkillers to offset any immediate strains or muscular damage that has occurred in the body. The last thing you want is any long-standing damage from this form of play, so keep a first aid kit on hand for afterwards (or even during).

Restore and replenish

Subs who have subjected their body to a long session may need instant replenishment as they could suffer from dehydration or low blood sugar. This can cause headache, dizziness, nausea and general fatigue. Rehydrate as soon as you can (and don't forget drinking plenty of water can help prevent UTIs) and follow up with a sugary, nutritious snack. This will give your body a much-needed hit and breathe life and strength back into the sub, who may have been left physically exhausted from the session.

Clean up

Clean up

If wax or other products have been used during the session, you'll want to clean up pretty quickly. A hot shower could also help regulate the temperature of the sub, who may notice a dramatic drop from being overly hot to overly cold straight after the session has finished. A shower together after the session can be a good way to reconnect.

Rest

Speaking of exhaustion, it's important that both the sub and dom take time to rest following a long session. For both parties, the experience can be draining and the muscles can be achy and sore from the heightened levels of activity. The rapid hormonal changes in the body can also lead to the sub in particular feeling lethargic and washed out. Following a BDSM scene, many couples find that having a nap together can be a loving and comfortable way to help their bodies naturally repair.

Relax and soothe

Relax and soothe

Lots of soothing aftercare is the key to bringing your body back around and feeling more grounded after a heavy session. A snuggly robe or blanket could be an immediate comfort to the sub, who may be feeling very cold. Following that, a relaxing bubble bath and some quiet time reading, watching a TV series or a repetitive action like coloring can help both parties wind down, slowing readjusting back into normal life. Following a particularly dramatic scene, it can be important to take the time to gradually reintegrate rather than trying to instantly switch from one reality to another.

Laugh, cuddle and communicate

One of the most important things to do following a BDSM session is to communicate and offer comfort to one another. This is true of any couple regardless of whether you are married or in a more casual relationship. Talk about the experience and what you enjoyed, what could be done differently next time and so on. Try not to get too heavy; laughter is good here, but only ever in a loving, well-meaning way and never to mock, criticize or be otherwise derisory. Keep the physical contact between you going through hugs or even close, intimate lovemaking, which will boost oxytocin and make you feel more engaged and affectionate toward one another.